Welcome to A.J. Mahari’s Phoenix Rising Life Coaching. Many posts from this blog have been moved from my previous coaching site touchstonecoaching.ca which is now being re-directed to this site. Wherever you read Touchstone Life Coaching Services that is also a company of mine. I am in the process of folding those services under the umbrella of Phoenix Rising Life Coaching.
My Coaching services, among other areas, focuses on, BPD Coaching for people with BPD, BPD Loved Ones Coaching, Mental Health Coaching for those with a mental illness and/or their loved ones. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or people who are loved ones of those with NPD. I also coach people in toxic relationships, who have codependency issues, and/or who want to break toxic relational dynamic patterns in their lives.
Change is not easy for most people. Change is challenging. Often people will benefit from the support of a life coach like myself during times of shifting perception, personal growth, relationship change, questions, and coping with the process of burgeoning or on-g0ing change. Sometimes change is thrust upon us due to a loss of some sort. Sometimes we become aware of a need for change when something in our lives isn’t being experienced in healthy or positive ways.
Phoenix Rising Life Coaching with A.J. Mahari is process that you can explore via telephone or email from anywhere in the world. Life coaching is a supportive, caring, compassionate, vehicle for creating change, identifying goals, healing and recovery, life and relationship enhancement and for breaking self-defeating and/or unhealthy patterns that may be holding you back from all that you desire in your life.
Each person has a soul. Each soul yearns, often, underneath the everyday lives that we lead to be much more fully known, felt, and expressed. Our lives have connection and meaning to the universe. Each life holds sacred purpose. It is in this universal garden of life that life truly is full of new beginnings. Each new beginning is a further conscious awakening on the journey that is living an examined life. © A.J. Mahari
Two metaphors rich in symbolism that are a deep part of the philosophy of my coaching are the Touchstone and The Phoenix Rising. I see my role as a coach being one of being a touchstone in people’s lives for the part of the journey that we take together when they are a client of mine. As I seek to teach my clients so too am I educated by them. Life Coaching, while I am here for you as your coach, is very much a dynamic two-way street. It is an equal partnership in helping the client identify blocks, identify goals, and get into action in removing those blocks from your life. In order to dream and achieve your dreams you will first benefit from knowing your authentic self better.
“Dreams are the touchstones of our character.” -Henry David Thoreau
The Phoenix Rising is rich in symbolism that I see as relevant in my own life and as being relevant for my clients. To be like a Phoenix, to be a Phoenix Rising, you just have to learn to empower yourself through personal responsibility and exercising the choices that you have. Being a Phoenix Rising is giving re-birth, giving flight to your authentic self and the life that you are meant to have, experience, and live – it is the unblocking of whatever is keeping you from your goals, your passion, your dreams, relating in healthier and more consistent ways to self and to others. Each person has the capacity to be a Phoenix Rising, to create change, to grow, to evolve, to resolve old wounds that might be roadblocks, in your here and now, roadblocks keeping you from being where you want to be and/or doing what it is you most want to do, and/or having what you most want to have in your life.
“Rising from the ashes of roadblocks, unresolved issues, fear, lack of a stable sense of self, low self-esteem, low self-worth, mental illness, toxic relationship patterns, codependency, lostness, abandonment, not knowing how or being comfortable being alone, and so much more is so possible when you make a commitment to yourself to consciously engage the journey of equanimity and wellness.” – A.J. Mahari
Life Coach A.J. Mahari on Observing Your Emotions
In this video Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, talk about observing your emotions, feeling and accepting your feelings. The more you are able to be aware of how you actually feel, the less you are reactionary to your feelings you will be. You can master your emotions – regulate them, cope effectively with them. Observing your emotions will help you to unblock any and all obstacles to getting on and staying on the pathway to a lasting, meaningful, balanced happiness and wellness in your life.
New beginnings beckon to us from what are experienced first as losses, failures, and painful experiences. There are times in life when transitioning from one phase to another the journey can be augmented positively by sharing part of it with a life coach like myself. Someone to walk a few steps of this explorative transition with you in a supportive, compassionate, and caring way.
Life coaching is a collaborative process with between the coach and the client with the mandate of supporting the client in achieving his or her personal goals. The process of life coaching, unlike psychotherapy, does not focus on the past or involve delving into one’s past. Life coaching focuses on effecting wanted and needed change in a client’s current and future thinking, attitude, feelings, and/or behaviour.
Personal Coaching is a process of supporting the client in his or her learning more about him/herself. In my experience, as a life coach, asking the client questions in a reflective way that is in response to what the client shares encourages the client to seek his or her own answers. Answers that will make themselves known through the kind of self-examination that produces both a deeper self-awareness and an increasing personal insight. Personal coaching is a learning experience.
Most clients seek me out as a life coach because they have come to some type of crossroads. They have come to realize that there is change needed in some area of their lives. Change is not easy for anyone. In some cases, where change is not possible, clients are exploring ways of coming to terms with challenges. In other cases clients are in search of more effective coping skills and techniques. And some clients face certain life challenges that call for adaptation and strategy when change itself isn’t the goal or is not a possible solution. Many clients seek support to find their way to the kind of personal understanding that enhances their confidence in being able to identity their needs and wants in ways that are the harbingers of the taking of the action required to create desired change or enhance personal coping strategies and to achieve personal, relationship, or career goals.
Some clients find that life coaching can also be very helpful in developing strategies to cope more effectively with on-going challenges in life as well.
As a life coach, I am an advocate for helping others to help and empower themselves by fostering and nurturing the liberation of each client’s authentic inner self. It is important to identify the path of change for each individual that is the way toward choosing and creating the change that they hunger for. It is the change that will further reveal each individual’s own personal path of ever-increasing authenticity. Change is a constant in life. We are always learning, growing, healing, and changing. Developing a personal style of mastery with one’s own change is not only a way to recover, heal, or grow, but it is the sacred path of spiritual change. It is the path upon which each soul seeks to leave its footprint in the ever-shifting sands of authentic self-actualization.
As a life coach I provide a caring, compassionate, safe, confidential, non judgemental, validating and supportive relationship within which clients can feel empowered to explore their present-day needs. I essentially act as a human mirror for my clients. I share with my clients an outside and unbiased perspective as to what I observe in listening to their feelings, experiences, and concerns.
© A.J. Mahari – Phoenix Rising Life Coaching